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My Cluttered Beginnings

6/16/2014

As an adolescent, if you entered my room you had to navigate your way by the few paths of bare carpet carved out of the clutter. Beware if you strayed, you might end up on your rump! My mom regularly had to clean my room out, purging my stuff and cleaning up my trash. I always had clutter everywhere. She finally got to the point where she just kept the door shut because she couldn’t stand it anymore and didn’t have the energy to clean it. I never developed the habit of putting something away when I was done with it so things just piled on top of each other and the floor. My room never stayed clean, and to tell you the truth at that point in my life, I didn’t really care very much.

There were times I did actually clean my room on my own. I remember how amazing it felt to have it picked up and neat. I loved being able to find what I was looking for and having space to move when I was listening to music by myself. I loved the way things felt when everything had a container and a place that it belonged. It felt so good when it was that way, but I could never keep it that way. I didn’t realize then that I had to want to keep it clean and choose to keep it clean. Those had to happen first before I would actually keep up with the cleaning maintenance along with the living of my life.

At the time, I wasn’t willing to stay present for my life, so my room would dissolve back into the chaos of clutter. My movement would be restricted and confined to the paths that remained the only bare floor of carpet you could see. In retrospect, that was a reflection of how I felt inside. I was trapped in the confines of myself, and stuffed with unexpressed emotions. I held onto all kinds of things for all kinds of reasons. I suffered with intense attachments to things, people, and music to name a few. The clutter in my life was evidence of the defense system I had constructed around myself on so many levels.

At some point the loneliness and emptiness would become uncomfortable enough for me and I would clean it. Then gradually I would clutter it up again. The cycle would continue ad infinitum.

I’m not sure what the defining moment was, but something shifted in me. At some point I began to feel a tiny spark of a desire inside me to really live. That tiny desire, all by itself was enough to attract The Universe to conspire all forces to match my desire. The Universe, facilitating the fruition of my expansion caused a momentum to build over time, and that desire to live got bigger and bigger, expanding exponentially further and further.

The result of that expansion is that I truly understand and know that I am the master of my reality, that I make all my choices. I am responsible for the life that I live. That also means that I am the Divine Creator Of The Universe, God/Goddess, Source. I have the power to have, do and be anything I want.

For me, in accepting the eternalness of who I am, I consciously chose to be present for my life. That meant caring about all aspects of my life, and it started to matter to me that I had attachments to things and stuff, and that I procrastinated whenever I could. For me, learning to take care of my environment has been an ongoing, evolving process. I try a system I think of to see how it works and adjust whatever is necessary until it works the way I need it to. Moving frequently helped me reduce the amount of stuff I had down pretty quickly! The moving helped me learn to let go of stuff. I didn’t want to lug that “shit” with me, so I made rash decisions and threw lots of things out and left lots of things behind. I had a tendency to be impulsive at times.

There were times that I regretted the rashness, but overall, I don’t miss any of what I let go of. It weighed me down and was mostly unnecessary. Feeling detached from things freed space in my field for the shifting to continue. Every particle of my Being was being opened and transformed. I was finally walking on the earth in my shoes, present for my life.

I’m not minimalistic in my approach. I believe that you need to have a place for the things that you enjoy, so everything should be given a home. It is okay to have hobbies and interests that bring you happiness. You just need to know where to put "the stuff" of your hobbies when you are done with it! If it doesn’t have a home, that can lead to clutter, so it's a good idea to consider some other storage options.

I feel that life is about following your joy and looking for things that feel good. We were put here in these bodies to expand and be joyous, not to suffer.

Our experience of pain in life arises from our perceptions of the events as they unfold. Only we can see through our own eyes. Suffering happens because we refuse to accept our Divinity and the immortality of our soul.

Today I allow myself some latitude and I let my desk get a little messy during the day as I work. I clean it at the end of the day when I am done for the night. It always feels good to come into a clean and clear space in the morning to start working in. I only leave a few things on the floor in the closet for the day, and I pick them up by the end of the night. I have gotten a lot better about putting something back when I’m done using it. And I'm better at doing that thing that is right in front of me that needs to be tended to, but not always! There is no perfection and since we are eternal, we can never really be finished anyway! So relax! All of it really is a process of continual expansion of our capacity for joy! My capacity for presence in my life directly correlates to how much I still cling to. Today my life is joyous and wonderful. It continues to amaze me on a daily basis. I wake up with anticipation and excitement for what the Universe has in store for me instead of the dread and self-pity I used to wake up with. The better it gets, the better it gets! I wonder what’s next?!!!

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Getting Organized From The Inside Out

1/6/2014

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I myself have received such remarkable healing and benefit from using energy healing with organizing. I found that when I took the time to purge and organize an area of my physical space, the benefits were far greater than I had ever thought they could be. That’s ultimately why I started my business – so I could help other people benefit experience the same powerful benefits that I have.

The clearing and sorting of the physical “clutter” is an involved process. It brings up all that (emotional and mental) “stuff” to the forefront to be seen and healed. The same stuff that we have kept brushing aside; tucking away, and hoping would remain hidden. Why do we want it to stay hidden?

We want it to remain because it is overwhelming to clear on our own. This is one of the main reasons why we end up with clutter and can have a difficult time getting organized and staying that way.

My personal experiences with organizing have been challenging and enlightening. Through my own de-cluttering processes of sorting through my things, I found all kinds of emotional content arising in my consciousness. Deep-rooted beliefs came to the surface that I had been unconscious of. I saw that I held on to old memories and feelings because of these beliefs. Some of the beliefs I uncovered included: lack, that there wasn’t enough to go around, that I shouldn’t be wasteful, that maybe these items could be useful someday so I should hang onto them, and that if I got rid of something that someone gave me I wouldn’t be connected to that person anymore.

Through each sorting process I noted what was coming to the forefront of my consciousness. First, I acknowledged that the limiting beliefs and feelings were there. Then I utilized my training in energy healing to uproot the beliefs that were blocking me, and replace them with new beliefs that empowered me. Removing the beliefs that kept me holding onto “stuff”, allowed me to stop accumulating and holding onto physical clutter in my life. The belief work transformed my life in many other ways as well. Your own personal beliefs are unique, and changing them will result in unique changes for you, but I’d like to share with you some of the results I myself experienced. For example, I began to know the feeling that there was enough, and that everything I needed would always be provided for. My faith in Source deepened. I became less attached to “stuff”, which made it much easier not to purchase something that I didn’t really need. My overall level of anxiety decreased and I felt a sense of calm in all areas of my life. I no longer felt stuck in my life. It gave me a renewed sense of confidence in myself. It strengthened my resolve to deepen the work on myself that I had begun.

Taking action this way led to so many other benefits as well. Not only did it create more physical space in my environment, it created a sense of freedom and an ease of movement in the rest of my life. It gave me more energy; I didn’t feel bogged down by “stuff” (emotional or physical clutter) anymore. It gave me a sense of pride about my space; I didn’t feel ashamed for people to see it anymore – and I didn’t feel ashamed for people to see me anymore either. I was able to walk with my head held high and look the world in the eyes.

Just by starting with one small space, the levels of healing that took place in my life were innumerable. Using energy healing and space organizing together created a momentum forward that I never thought possible. I continue to be amazed by this profound pairing of services, and I truly love to share it. That is why I created De-Cluttering Spaces: a comprehensive, de-cluttering service unlike any other. When you are ready to begin, I invite you to call me and set up your free in-home consultation. I really do look forward to helping you experience remarkable changes – inside and out.

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Are You Living The Life YOU Want

11/24/2013

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Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, Is this the life I want to live? Am I happy? Am I living true to my Soul?

I was raised with the belief that if you want to get anywhere in life, you have to work hard. If you didn’t work hard, you didn’t earn it. For many years, that is what I did. I strived hard in my jobs to be promoted so I could be what I thought was “successful”. I didn’t believe anything else was even possible.

Then I was introduced to the work of Abraham, channeled by Ester Hicks. It showed me the possibility of creating whatever reality I wanted for myself. All I had to do was to desire it and to feel good. For once in my life I finally posed the question to myself and asked, “What do I really want? What do I want my life to look like? When I got quiet and took stock of my life it was clear to me that the life I was living was not the life I wanted. My life was an expression of the beliefs of my tribe - my family - thought it should be. I was working hard for a company that possibly had a future somewhere down the road. The company I worked for constantly stressed me, and it wasn’t even mine. I took my stress and frustration home with me everyday.

I really believed that this was the life I was going to live. Even though I had resigned to the limited life I created, I knew deep down that it wasn’t the life I wanted for myself. When I was honest with myself about the things that were in my life that I didn’t want, I was able to begin to see what it was that I did want. I wanted freedom. I wanted to make money that went to my family. I wanted to make my own hours. I wanted to spend more quality time with my wife. I wanted whatever I did to help others.

Now that I was focused on what I wanted, I sent those desires out to the Universe. Doing as Abraham suggested, I decided to do the only thing I was responsible for to make change in my life, and that was to feel good and find the joy. I trusted that the Universe would take care of the “how’s”. All I had to do was appreciate everything I could in my life and feel good as much as possible.

Now let me first say that in the beginning of the creation process I thought I had to have it all figured out. I calculated exactly how much I needed to make to cover all my bills. I wrote all the details down including what I thought my life was supposed to look like. I was holding on tight to my ideas, which didn’t leave much room for the Universe/Source Energy to do Its thing. This of course wasn’t working. Nothing was shifting because I was limiting the Universe.

When I was able to let go of the details of how the Universe would fulfill my desires, the energy began to shift. Ideas and connections came to me that I had never thought of before. Then an amazing new job opportunity presented itself! It met all my requirements and freed me to quit my current limiting job! I was ecstatic to learn that the new job would require me to work fewer hours per day than I had been working, but still pay me more than I was earning after 7 years of service at my old job! And the best part was yet to come! Two weeks into the new job, my client had “life” happen and needed to go back East to stay with family for a while. I was paid my entire year salary! I worked for two weeks and then the Universe delivered to me all I was I had asked for. In fact it gave me more than I could’ve ever imagined. I had always wanted to work for myself, and now, with this new amazing circumstance of being released from my job but paid a full year’s salary I had the time and the resources to build my own business and work for myself! This amazing circumstance also lead me to find what I truly enjoyed doing.

All my life I wanted to help others in some way. In my new freedom I was given the clarity to take my love of organizing, my project management skills and my training in energy healing to create De-Cluttering Spaces: a comprehensive, de-cluttering service unlike any other.

Now, when I ask myself, “Am I living the life of my dreams? Am I happy? Am I living true to my soul?” The answer is a resounding “Yes!”

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Clearing Clutter One Drawer At A Time

11/24/2013

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Do you have junk drawers full of stuff, table tops covered in papers, closets over flowing? Does getting organized feel like a daunting task? You are not alone. I want to show you that getting organized and staying that way isn't as hard as you think. Together we will break the process down into manageable steps for you to walk through. As you take each step you will begin to see how even the little steps can make big differences right now, and how each step builds on each other to gradually transform your surroundings. With the physical changes in your surroundings you will also begin to notice changes in your internal environment like feeling calmer, more grounded and more present in your life.

There are many areas in our homes that become cluttered and disorganized. This week we will begin with something small and manageable, the “catch all junk drawer.” Most of us have more than one of them, so you can apply this process on all of the drawers you have. Begin with one at a time. You can move through these steps in a couple different ways depending on what you are looking to accomplish. If you are just looking to get the drawer organized, you can do the step-by-step for sorting, disposing and placing. If you are looking for more than just a how-to guide, I have provided some additional exercises along the way. These more in-depth action steps are there to help you begin to notice what is happening internally when you see the clutter that has been created, organize it and create space. By becoming aware of how the process of de-cluttering makes you feel inside and the thought patterns it brings up, you can use that awareness to create lasting changes physically, emotionally, and mentally.

So let's begin. Set aside an hour or two that you can be uninterrupted and work on that junk drawer. Turn off your cell phone. Make a commitment to be with yourself for these next couple hours. You will need a little space to work in with the items from the drawer like a counter or a small area on the floor, some paper and a pen. It is a good idea to also have a trash bag close by for the items you no longer need, or that don’t work.

Now, when you're all set and ready to begin, stop where you are. You can sit if that is more comfortable. Close your eyes and take a few moments to be with yourself as you are in this moment. Allow whatever thoughts and feelings are there to just be. You are just noticing all that is arising in your experience. See the thoughts and feelings as clouds that are passing in the sky. No need to catch a ride on one. Just let them pass freely through your experience. Try not to judge anything that is coming up for you. Just notice what is arising as you move towards creating space in your life. After a few moments begin to consciously deepen your breathing. Deepen your breathing by breathing in for 4-5 seconds and out for 4-5 seconds. Do this exercise for about 10 breath cycles. You can continue longer if that feels good to, or less if you need to. Deepening your breathing is going to activate your body’s natural relaxation response so that you are in a calmer, more grounded space as you begin to organize.

Once you have taken a few moments to come into your body by breathing, use the pen and paper to write down the things that were coming up for you. This is an opportunity to clear any “mental junk” that came to the surface. There may also be nothing to write which is fine. Don't get caught up in needing to write anything. After you've written anything that came up, you are ready to open the drawer and have a look inside. It is a good idea to take another couple deep breaths as you begin and as well as throughout the entire organizing process. This is a great way to stay present with the process and continue to clear the mental junk that keeps rising to the surface.

Now you can begin organizing. I like to use the process of sorting items into piles. The mind is already good at categorizing so by sorting it takes the big task and breaks it down into smaller more manageable pieces. Begin sorting the items in the drawer based on what you have stored in there. For example your drawer might have office supplies, light bulbs, tools, etc. Once you have sorted everything, it is time to put it away. If the items you have sorted already have places in your home, go ahead and put them away. Things that are broken, missing parts or are no longer needed, can be thrown away. The rest of the items will go back in the drawer. When putting stuff away somewhere, you want to make what you use the most easily accessible so place the items in the drawer accordingly. Things used the least, put on the bottom or in back and the most important items place on top or in front. If you are finding that you need compartments or containers to help keep things separated in the drawer, Target, Home Goods or the Container Store are a good place to start. If you are on a tight budget, you can also keep packaging that manufacturers use to box your food or other items in and re-purpose them.

Congratulations! You have just finished organizing your first drawer and cleared some clutter! Take a moment to breath into the physical & mental space you created for yourself. Notice what you are feeling. Do you feel sense of accomplishment? Do you feel lighter? Do you feel a little more space to breathe? Wonderful! Breathe in and enjoy the newly created space. Acknowledge the work you did. Take a moment to thank yourself for taking the time to begin organizing your life. Write down anything that you feel compelled to write about your journey so far. Over the next few days and weeks, notice how making space in one drawer has begun to make space in other areas of your life. Enjoy the space that you have created.

If the task of organizing is too overwhelming and you would like help in the process, don't hesitate to contact me. I offer unconditional, loving and nonjudgmental organizing and personal assisting services based on your individual needs.

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My Cluttered Beginnings

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